Kaden Henry
Teen couples often struggle to navitage the dynamics of a romantic relationship and balancing that with school expectations and social lives.
With the Valentine’s season nearing, students are beginning their journey of finding a companion to spend the special day with. What some may not realize is Valentine’s day is for more than just spreading the love, with a staggering 7% of the world’s population using the day to break up with their special person instead.
Breaking up is more difficult for some than others, but it’s not insurmountable. To end a relationship, one doing that may contribute towards a deciding factor can be getting together with friends and evaluating pros and cons. Typically, the use of an outside source can bring a differing perspective, which can ultimately dilute your choices.
A fundamental, yet exceedingly challenging step in ending a relationship is to be sure in your choice. It’s never a bad thing to reconsider or take a moment to think and outweigh the choices you must make for your own personal future.
Furthermore, the most crucial step when separating is to be fully honest. Transparency is not only important during the breakup process itself, but is additionally highly important throughout everyday life.
“First of all, I think you have to be honest, and you have to be honest with yourself before you even attempt to start or end a relationship with anyone,” said English teacher Sandy Cruz.
Trust is founded on communication, and communication is a pillar to any romance, assisting both people through hard times, including breakups. It’s not a guarantee in paving an easier process, but it’s a starting point with serious aid if things don’t last.
“If that person is genuinely not what you’re looking for, don’t wait until a good time to [breakup], because it’s never going to be a good time. It’s always going to be awkward,” said Cruz.
The final steps in a breakup that are commonly overthought the most is simply coming to terms with the reality that a bond once so strong is now in the past, and finding a way to separate in a proper way, as appropriately as possible.
In some situations, it’s ordinary for certain people to stay more and more at ease towards the end of a relationship, usually caused by desensitization early on in life.
A great analogy I refer to and use to help friends is similar to if you have been bitten by a snake. If you happen to suffer the fate of a snake bite, the immediate thought is never to chase it and find its motives, but instead to heal from the wound, whether it left a little venom behind or not. Love will come and go, and although saying farewell from what once was can be tough, it is never impossible.